Advice to Young Men


​Kevin East

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Kevin East is the President of the Boys & Girls Clubs of East Texas.

There are many things I wish someone would have told me when I turned 18. As I shared in a previous post, I was given the opportunity to write a young man a letter recently, passing any wisdom to this young man that I thought would be appropriate. I did, but I felt that my letter came up short. It did because it barely scratched the surface of what I wish someone would have told me.

For this reason, I have written another letter. Although it is addressed to one man, it would be what I would tell any young man entering college.


I was honored to write you a letter this past week. However, thinking back over what I said, I think I came up terribly short. As usual, I could always blame the brevity of my note to the fact I am busy, that I have a large family, or that my responsibilities with work were getting the best of me. The problem is, if I said that, I’d be just like most other men in America; making excuses for coming up short.

The truth is, I was more concerned with sounding good than saying something good. Austin, I believe in you too much to simply tell you to choose maturity throughout life. In the next few years, you will go through such a shaping season of your life. I have watched good men make decisions during this time that would alter their life dramatically.

That being said, here are a few points I want to pass along:

Pornography kills marriages. Austin, this is serious. I’ve sat across many tables with college guys in tears because they were addicted to looking at naked women on computer screens. They knew they hated looking at it, but sin’s web was tightly constricting them. Remember that this isn’t just about keeping your eyes pure. It is also about not setting your wife up to fail. What these guys look at on computers is not real. It is a sick fantasy. The producers of porn take air-brushed, plastic women, and have them act like they have the sex drive of men.

Men arrive in marriage with unreal expectations, and the damage done takes years to unravel.

Men need friends. You need good, solid guys that can lock arms with you and walk life next to you. In college many guys start living life “around” other guys, but never with them. Austin, find some guys that want to honor God with their lives. Seek to know them, and allow them to know you. As you get older, this becomes even more difficult, so learn early how critical this really is.

God’s grace is deep. Some of my most profound realizations about the goodness of God came while I was in college. Growing up, I didn’t have the slightest desire to read books. Given the decision, I would have picked doing something outside fun and active as opposed to reading. Yet, after I became a Christian, this changed.

Take advantage of your college years to dive deep in God’s Word. Study it. Reflect on it. Memorize it. Ask someone to teach it to you. Austin, you are a good man, raised in a great family. Yet, you have so much to learn about the depths of the riches of God’s love. Don’t miss this opportunity.

Don’t focus so much on your grades that you miss an education. Austin, I know you have a 4.0 right now. That is great. I had that as well until my first conduct grades in 1st grade. It was all downhill from there. As you go through college, studying hard and trying to excel is important, but don’t put in on a throne it didn’t belong.

Take advantage of opportunities to “cut your teeth” leading. Go on mission trips where you can learn that God doesn’t just speak English. Look at other cultures to understand what real poverty looks like. When you finish college, all these experiences will have shaped you.

Above all else. This is a chapter title from the book Spiritual Leadership . In this chapter, he talks about the need for leadership that is Spirit-led. Austin, this world needs men who are under the authority of the Lord Jesus. Be purposeful in stopping to place your heart under His. Great leadership doesn’t come from “technique-ing” people. It comes from wisdom and discernment that is God-given. So go to Him, and ask. He’ll give it.

As I told you in my first letter, I believe in you, Austin. I look forward to watching God’s shaping hand on your life. Come sit on my porch anytime if you’d like to discuss this further.

Walk in great grace, and speak with great power (Acts 4:33),



Frame of Mind

Frame of mind is an important concept when dealing with challenges towards health. For me, getting into the ‘right’ frame of mind for eating healthy foods seems equivalent to the difficulty mountaineers face when trekking towards the summit of Everest without appropriate foot wear on! You probably think I’m over-doing it a little…more than likely I am, but for those few who know the feeling that there is a chocolate gateau in the depth of the fridge, staring at you…laughing! You know the unlikely event that you’ll go to sleep that night without lying in bed in-tears over the fact that you just devoured 1242 calories in less than 8 seconds…teeth covered in chocolate and a breath that represents a ‘taster session’ to everyone nearby for what you’ll deliver once your stomach churning stops. “It was worth it at the time” I guess is the reply.
Anyways…frame of mind. It clearly has an impact on people’s motivation and ability to deliver on performance and achieve the things they set out to complete. With that secret weapon we call ‘willpower’ lasting approximately 5 minutes, I think its time to re-evaluate our strategy.
So what is our strategy? I know each time I set out to lose a pound or two (or twelve) without anything to follow, it doesn’t go all that well…pretty miserable in fact. So what can we do about it? Well…we can put a strategy in place I suppose. It sounds simplistic probably but think of this as our ‘road map’…the way you can follow the exact directions outlined by the map to lead you to a destination. It’s no different with (in this case) weight loss! Yes, the route may change a little from person to person, but we all have different starting positions…and some people have further to go than others. Give them the RIGHT directions in the first place however…and maybe they’ll actually enjoy the journey instead of just returning to where they started, frustrated and feeling like there’s no point!
So, through my own experience, I’ve discovered your ‘frame of mind’ is a very important concept! It doesn’t give you directions, but having the correct mindset will allow you to continue again and again without giving up. I reckon by now you’re expecting something like “10 tricks to trim stomach fat”. Quite frankly, the quicker they’re off the internet, the better.
So what advice do I have then?
Re-organise your values first! We need to get to the point where healthy living is ranked amongst our top 5 values. This will help gain a much stronger position to evaluate related actions, making it less likely that we will depend that momentary willpower when faced with a choice. So try this, Think about your top four values…really think about them for a second…
Now, label your values in order, but try to include healthy living is at least one place.
5. (Example: Healthy living)
When we come across people from all walks of life and from different countries, we can notice that their lives lead entirely different paths based on their values. If they valued money more than themselves, how would their life look? If they valued family over themselves, how might this be different? If they valued ‘junk food’ as pleasurable and fruits as a painful necessity, how might this affect the persons habits?…And would this be any different if this was the opposite way?
Now. We all have values that have either been developed through experience, circumstance or just pure choice. For the next couple of days, I’d like you to consider the values that you have chosen including ‘Healthy living’. Having this valued amongst other important aspect of your own life will increase your ‘frame of mind’ to perform in your favour…rather than weightless advice like “just be positive.”
So here’s the challenge for healthy living. You have to consider your actions…no matter how insignificant they seem…and compare them against the new value that we have created! This means anything from thinking of the food that you consume, the way you treat yourself or your surroundings and the actions you take on a daily basis.
Once we get experience of a new frame of mind, we will be on course to applying our strategy…but one thing at a time.
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Medical practitioners and other stakeholders in the health sector have applauded the Primary Healthcare Development Agency bill and the Akwa Ibom State Health Insurance Agency bill sponsored by the Speaker House, Rt. Hon. Barr. Onofiok Luke, describing the two health care sector related bills as important bills that would enhance the well-being of the citizenry.
Speaking, Friday at the Akwa Ibom State House of Assembly during a public hearing on three health care related bills namely, A bill for a Law to provide for the establishment of Akwa Ibom state Health Insurance Agency, and A bill for a Law to provide for the establishment of Akwa Ibom State Primary Healthcare Development Agency and for Matters Connected therewith, sponsored by the Speaker of the House, Rt. Hon. Barr. Onofiok Luke and a bill for a law to make provisions for the establishment and control of private hospitals and other healthcare facilities in Akwa Ibom State and for other matters connected therewith, 2016, sponsored by a former Speaker of the House and member representing Ibesikpo Asutan State Constituency, Hon. Aniekan Uko, the Commisioner for Health, Dr. Dominic Ukpong, Chairman, Nigeria Medical Association, NMA, Akwa Ibom State branch, representative of the National Association of Nigerian Nurses and Midwives, NANNM, in the state, a former legislator and Medical director, St. Atanasius Hospital, Dr. Emmanuel Akpanobong, State Co-ordinator, National Health Insurance Scheme, NHIS, Miss. Vivian Imebu, Former Chairman, Hospital Management Board, and currently the Chairman, Local Government Service Commission, Sir. Dr. Val Attah , and the State Vice-Chairman, Peoples Democratic Party, Mr. Imo Okon, among others, hailed the Speaker of the Assembly, Barr. Luke for the bill. They noted that the Primary healthcare development agency bill will help in the improvement of health care delivery service at the rural areas.
However, the Commissioner for Health, Dr. Ukpong, asked the House to stand down on the Bill for a Law to Make Provisions for the Establishment and Control of Private Hospitals and Other Healthcare Facilities in Akwa Ibom State and for Other Matters Connected Therewith , which is sponsored by Hon. Aniekan Uko, saying the bill needed to be properly fine tuned and re-presented at a later date, as there were loopholes in the composition of the bill.

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